Who We Are
We're a brainweird and genderqueer collective that mostly uses they/them pronouns. Some of us use other pronouns, and we'll provide those if they're needed. We're an adult, but we would prefer not to disclose our exact age here- we're a touch paranoid about strangers on the internet thanks to a few bad experiences in the past.
We discovered our plurality in late 2015 or early 2016 and found the plural community in the summer of 2016 or 2017; since then, we've been working towards peaceful co-existence. We make a point of being inclusive of all benign differences, system origins and quirks included, and we feel that they shouldn't be used as the basis for judgement and discrimination. We're much more interested in learning about the diversity of plural experiences and helping those that need support than we are in perpetuating patterns of harrassment based on arbitrary criteria.
Almost anything creative is interesting to us; if it involves making something, we'll enjoy it. We actively or occasionally draw, paint, compose music, bind books, needle felt, repair plushies, customize dolls, sculpt things, DM tabletop games, and participate in all sorts of other creative pastimes- you name it, we'll try it. We also like to program. At the moment we have a decent grasp on Python3, BASH, HTML, and CSS (if you count those last two as programming), and we intend to pick up some C, Lua, and Perl. Aside from creative pursuits, we're passionate about human diversity and neurodivergence, technology in general, digital privacy, and rhythm gaming.
Collectively, we identify as various flavors of nonhuman for spiritual and psychological reasons. While we are fully aware that our body is human, the way we experience ourselves does not line up with that. We spent years hiding this identity and trying to deny our experiences because it all sounded ridiculous, but we're working to accept ourselves and be more open about who we are. Does that make us crazy? Maybe, but we'd rather be crazy and comfortable with ourselves than completely sane while rejecting who we are.
We veil (cover our hair) on a daily basis for practical and personal reasons. It feels right to make a public part of our body private to us, and it helps us a lot with sensory issues and anxiety. There's something oddly calming about it. In our case, it's definitely not for religious reasons; we're best described as pantheistic animists and aren't aligned with any organized religions, nor are we looking to join any.
We strongly believe in accepting all benign differences in existence and identity no matter how weird they might be- as long as you aren't intentionally hurting others (e.g. transphobia, pedophilia, misogyny), we'll respect you.
The exact composition of our collective has varied significantly over time. Change is just part of how we work: parts of us frequently shift where we are and who we associate with inside. This can radically change the apparent composition of our collective. We're still made of all the same parts, but they're rearranged and have a different relationship with identity than before, functionally making us different iterations of the same core people. We theorize that we work like this because it makes it easier to adapt to different problems and demands.
Because the members of our collective shift identities over time, we've chosen to only list members that have existed for a longer period of time and have requested their own page here. Not all of us will be listed here, and not being listed does not mean someone does not exist. It simply means they don't have their name on our website for one reason or another. These personal pages were created entirely or in part by the person they belong to.
Currently Listed Members:
How We Work
On the surface level, we're all people just like you. For the most part, we appear separate and semi-consistent, and we behave as individuals sharing a body.
Everyone in our collective has parts of self. Just like anyone else, our parts make us who we are; they hold memories, traits, preferences, and other essential pieces of identity. What differs is how these parts interact. For some of us, these parts come together under a shared identity that we call a person (much like a non-plural person), but not everyone here is unified in that way. Some of us are a bunch of parts who work together without having a shared self-identity between them; think of it like a hivemind. Other people share parts between them but have their own identities. It can get confusing at times.
Parts aren't fixed in place. Things happen to us that push us to change, and sometimes that means that parts get reshuffled. Someone who had a silly, childish part of themself might be unable to be silly because it's incompatible with them handling serious life demands, and that part of them might go to someone else who can afford to have that trait. This movement of parts means that memories, traits, beliefs, and other significant aspects of a person's identity can be drastically changed if something necessitates that shift. It's allowed us to adapt to very different demands in the past but has made it difficult to learn how we work; we've mapped the inside of our head quite a few times, only to find out a few months later that the map is no longer accurate.
There are core parts that aren't shifted around. These parts are the ones that are so essential to a person's identity that changing or losing them would make them someone else entirely. Every other part of the person can be changed or moved, but the core part remains in place. What winds up happening as a result is that people go through iterations of self over time. The same core person has been reformed and reshaped repeatedly, with each iteration being a functionally different person from the last while still holding the core part's traits. An example is our caregiver: Lotus is the latest iteration of a core self that's emotionally numbed and prioritizes calm, self-care, and secrecy, but there have been four or five people before aem who also had these core traits while otherwise being their own people. These people no longer exist, as each new iteration replaced the previous. We can trace these iterated selves up to Lotus's present existence. This is the case for everyone here. All of us have been different people in the past, and we can trace our personal history through the people we used to be. Through all of those people, there have been core parts that have endured, and every person here is the latest iteration of a core.